I have a confession to make. Every month I go to the chiropractor and get an adjustment done and then I treat myself to a full body massage for an hour. To be clear I’m not made of money, however I have found that working this “indulgence” in to my budget it totally worth it. Over the years I have learned that it is important for me to account for some self-care in my otherwise utilitarian budget.
Why is important for me to have massage? It sounds like such a luxury but really I know that to take care of our bodies and souls is just as important as all the other day-to-day busyness of our lives. After all, the more we can take care of ourselves the more we can take care of others! So why are we afraid to take time out of our busy days to take care of ourselves, especially as women?
Most often it’s likely because we feel we must take care of others first before taking care of ourselves, which usually leaves little time for the latter. Women have been care takers for centuries, it’s in our blood. But just remember what we’re all taught on airplanes – put your mask on first. You can’t help anyone if you pass out from lack of oxygen!
It could also be that taking care of ourselves is seen as selfish, especially when there are so many other people who need our help. If you really stop to think about it though, will they survive just fine without your assistance for an hour or so? Mostly likely, yes. Unless you’re in a position where your assistance is more serious, as in a brain surgeon, then you can take that time out. And if you are a brain surgeon, then that’s even more important that you be on your top game when doing your work! Everyone needs a break and that isn’t selfish – that’s self-love.
Worse yet, we tell ourselves that “we don’t have time” for self-care. Yet we can find all the time in the world to chauffeur kids around or join committees or volunteer for extra projects at work. By spreading ourselves too thin, we not only risk lowering the quality of our work in each area, we’re also showing the world that everyone else’s needs take priority over ours. And there’s the real culprit!
The heart of the matter comes down to one thing – it’s a matter of our self-worth. Too many women feel unworthy or undeserving of getting massages or spa treatments or whatever it is they do to treat themselves. Often times we feel like we need to earn such luxury. As if all the work we do every day isn’t enough to warrant a little self-care. It’s time to take a stand. Declare loudly that you are worthy and definitely deserve a break from the hectic chaos of your life!
If you’re still on the fence about whether you can or should take time out to practice some self-care, think of the benefits of massage itself. Studies have shown it reduces stress and muscle pain and can boost your immune system as well as give you better sleep. Who doesn’t want all that? If massage itself isn’t your thing, there are a myriad of other ways to show your love for yourself. Here are 25 wonderful ideas from Greatist for how to spend some quality time with your lovely self.
Remember, at the end of the day, no one can take better care of you than you! And by showing others how much you matter to yourself, it’ll help them see to you for your true worth. I bet when you start to give yourself the tender loving care we all so richly deserve, others will start treating you the same way. With respect, compassion and perhaps a little admiration. Who knows, maybe you will inspire someone else to give themselves some self-care time. And wouldn’t the world be a better place for that?
What do you do to practice self-care? Leave a comment below to let me know!
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