Tools for Life – Add light and energy to your day!

Tools for Life - Add light and energy to your day!

Let’s face it… some days are more of a struggle than others. I totally know how that goes.

The alarm comes much too soon, the coffee is not nearly as effective as usual and all you can think about during that never-ending-god-forsaken meeting is how comfortable your bed will be whenever you finally get back to it.

For days like that I turn to a few simple solutions – you guessed it! Time for another edition of Tools for Life, where I give you two simple tools to keep in your belt for those times you need a little extra help.

Today we’re going to add a little light and energy to your life with lemon essential oil and citrine crystal.

Now I’m sure you’ve heard that or even guessed that lemon oil is very extremely useful. It’s in everything from cleaning supplied to candles. It’s such a versatile oil you can use it for almost anything. Physical energy boost, mental clarity enhancer and spiritual confidence enhancer. It’s one little oil that definitely packs a punch!W28QPZPAK6

It refreshes and renews the body in almost every way possible. Its antibiotic, antioxidant, antidepressant… pretty much anti anything you want!

Mentally, it clears the clutter and gets you back to focusing. And don’t we all need that?! Emotionally, it aids with raising your mood and boosts self-confidence (thus the antidepressant aspect). Metaphysically it corresponds with your solar plexus chakra – the center of your self-confidence. It connects you to your divine nature and higher consciousness.

It’s such a happy oil that I can’t help feeling uplifted the moment I open the cap.

My favorite use for lemon oil? As a pick me up in the morning before my walk. I just put a drop or two into a glass of water and drink it down. I can feel my mind clearing up and my body detoxifying at the same time. Lemon oil is naturally purifying and aids in digestion.

NOTE: Before ingesting any oil check that it is safe first. Some oils are not for internal consumption, so always check beforehand.

Lemon oil will surely put a spring in your step, so try some today and discover all the amazing benefits yourself! If you’d like to get the oil I use, you can get it here.

And here are some awesome DIY recipes if you already have oil and want to try new ways to use it.

Moving on the next tool that’ll add light and joy to your life, citrine is one happy little stone.

il_570xN.916320735_lra6Citrine is a bright yellow stone that resembles a little sun. It’s known as the “success stone” for the abundance it brings and is also connected to the solar plexus chakra. It clears unwanted or negative energies and can engender hope. Like I mentioned with the selenite last month, citrine doesn’t pick up any negative energy so you never need to cleanse it.

It’s a great stone for meditation, spiritual development and of course building self-confidence. Like lemon oil, it clears mental clutter and helps you focus. It increases creativity and inspiration. And it can also ease depression and self-doubt.

NOTE: I’m not a physician and cannot diagnose you. If you are suffering from severe depression please seek professional assistance.

Like any other crystal, you can use a tumbled (polished) version and carry it in your pocket, hold it in your hand, or there is always lots of wonderful jewelry made with citrine to be found everywhere. One of my favorites is this gorgeous piece from Elemental Origins.

Citrine and lemon go together so well, it was almost like they were created from the same source. And perhaps they were! All I know is that I love both of them for all the benefits they bring and they never cease to amaze me whenever I use them and immediately feel lighter all around.

Try them out today and see what a difference they can make in your life!

The door only you can open – how to find hope within despair

The door only you can open - how to find hope within despair

When I moved to Derry/Londonderry, Northern Ireland to do a Master’s degree in Peace and Conflict Studies, I had HIGH hopes. Which, I have to say were sadly not met.

In my mind, I was going to get the degree – along with three amazing trips sponsored by the school, of which we only had 1 and half – and then find a job in the conflict resolution field, earning a U.K. work visa that would allow me to stay in Europe for several years.

The reality was more like – get the degree, not get a job, struggle to make ends me without a full work visa, take care of friend who became increasingly ill, then move back to her home in the states and desperately search for a job to keep going. Oh, and in the midst of that have, not one, but two grandparents pass away while I was abroad.

Yeah… it was rough. So rough that some days I didn’t know how to keep going.

Sometimes our darkest days hold our greatest lessons. It’s in those times that faith in ourselves and the universe needs to be the guiding light.

To give you a glimpse of my mental state at the time this journal entry from September 2009 sums it up quite nicely:

“Still out of sorts within myself. Trying to fit together the pieces of the puzzle I feel is my life now. Been reading very slowly a book on metaphors and our construction of life. It’s interesting and makes me think – perhaps too much. Last bit I read was about the metaphor “life is a story” and the significance of “life’s a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.” It discussed how we wish to see coherence in our life stories and often try to make the facts fit to make it so, whether it really does or not. That’s where I feel I’m at now. Trying to find coherence when there is none. Sound and fury. Signifying nothing. I’ve talked a lot about faith and trust recently. Maybe that is the antidote to non-coherence. Making things true because you wish them so desperately to be so, even though you know they aren’t. Sound and fury.”

However, the very next entry 3 days later, I wrote that every painful experience is a lesson to learn from and not meaningless sound and fury. Luckily I bounce back pretty well, especially with help from my friends.

Several of my dear friends and colleagues at the university knew of my plight. I even had to end up asking one of them for a loan, which she wisely refused and instead helped me find some other work to do to earn the money I needed.

But more than that she gave me the greatest gift – HOPE.

I know it’s cheesy as hell, but love the tv show Once upon a time. Any time I’m feeling low and starting to think there’s no point to anything in the world, I just need to watch one episode to remind myself that “there’s always hope.”

So how did my very wise and kindhearted friend remind me when I felt at my lowest? She simply gave me a postcard that read:

“There is a light in the dark. There is the door which only you can open.”

Breakthrough. Changing Planes.This postcard has kept my spirits up for years after the initial gifting of it. Not only is the image on the front perfect, including the name of the artwork – “Breakthrough. Changing Planes.” But the message she wrote made my heart open and break at the same time. I even changed the name of my travel blog to “Light in the Dark” for a time.

I’d love to say that all my days have been sunny since then, but that’d be a big fat lie and nearly impossible to boot. However, I am more aware of how I’m seeing things during those inevitable rough patches. I could sit and wallow and despair at the unfairness and general misery of the world, or I could find one little glimmer of light in the darkness. I chose the latter.

Choose to see the light. 

Late last year I started keeping a daily gratitude journal. I know, I know, it’s all the rage now, but they really are amazing. First thing in the morning, as part of my wake up routine, I write a few sentences about what I’m grateful for (recurring themes are the cat, coffee and nice weather). Even when I feel utterly lost and annoyed with life, I can still find one silly thing to be grateful.

For instance, on Monday I was “grateful for morning walks and warmer temperatures. For cheesy romantic comedies [had a binge fest the night before], and for inspiration.”

I recommend you try it, even for a week. And remember that writing it out is immensely more powerful than just speaking it out! Plus, you can go back and look at all your gratitude and it’s much harder to “forget” to have one moment of gratitude.

And if you need a little more guidance in your quest for gratitude… allow me to suggest Soulful Journals Gratitude Journal, Gretchen Rubin’s One Sentence Journal or any of these amazeballs journals that can be more than just for gratitude. Though you’ll definitely be grateful you have them!

Start today! – What are you grateful for right now? Me, I’m grateful I get to write and hopefully inspire others as my day job. Life doesn’t get much better than that. 🙂

Healing Effects of Nature – Wayfaring Wanderer

hEALING-1Today we’re going on a journey….

In addition to my usual blog post, I have the honor to be featured on Wayfaring Wanderer’s blog.

Click here to read my post.

I only recently meet Wayfaring Wanderer but I knew from the first that we are kindred spirits. Aside from having the most awesome business name and being a fun loving, adventurer that she is, she’s also and a-MA-zing wedding photographer. Check out this gorgeous featured wedding shoot!

One of the many things we have in common is our love of traveling and nature. We both live is some of the most beautiful parts of the country. I’m in colorful Colorado and she’s living it up in Boone, North Carolina. So naturally… we both love nature. And thus my blog post for her site is an ode to the almost miraculous healing affects of nature.

I hope you enjoy the post and check out Wayfaring Wanderer for all your wedding planning and photography needs! I know she’ll definitely be my go-to woman when I get married. 🙂

 

 

Simple Spells to calm your heart and clear your mind

Continuing on with the spring cleaning theme, we’re going to look at a rather unique way of clearing out emotional and mental clutter in your life.

Sometimes life becomes too overwhelming or a sucky situation doesn’t seem to want to end. I believe we’re never given a challenge that we cannot overcome. However every now and then something happens and you just want to toss in the towel and say, “That’s it! I’m over it. I’m done with this game.”

We all need a little help sometimes – Turn to the universe for support

I started praying when I was 10 years old and haven’t stopped since. Though my methods may have changed a bit, I still seek out guidance and support. In addition to nightly prayers I occasionally need a little extra boost. During those times, I turn to spells to help me get over the hurdle.

Spells get a bad rap but they are just prayers that rhyme

I was a huge fan of the tv show Charmed. I totally wanted to be one of the charmed ones, though maybe with less demon fighting. 🙂 What I loved about it though was how words were often more powerful then centuries old warlocks and demons. A few rhymes here, some candles there and then poof! Victory!!

Obviously spells in the real world don’t work quite that effectively and hopefully you don’t need them in a life or death situation, but I’ve found a few spells are super helpful in at least changing my present state and allowing me to face my demons on my own.

For instance, when I was working in a pretty toxic office environment, I’d come home and be completely drained. I couldn’t think straight or enjoy my free time in any real quality way. So I came up with a few simple spells to help clear away all the sh*t of the workplace and let me get back to myself.

I’ve finally put these spells together in a downloadable ebook, but I wanted to highlight one for you here. The spell below I use in the shower and say it while the water runs over me, imagining that it cleanses not just my body, but my heart and mind too. After saying this little ditty, I would get out of the shower and feel refreshed all around! No more sluggishness and despair, but feelings of hope and lightness appeared. Try it for yourself!

Shower cleansing spell

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Father God,
Wash away all the _____________ (fear, pain, stress, frustration, etc.) of the day.
Let this water cleanse me,
Let your light refresh me.
Fill my heart with ______________ (joy, hope, strength, clarity, etc.),
So I may face the challenges before me.
With grateful heart and open mind,
Wash away all energy that binds.

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help. When you need a little extra support try a spell to ask the divine to get your back. I bet you’ll feel better and if nothing else, it’s a great placebo effect and you’ll realize you have all you need to succeed already. I hope the spell helps you as much as it did me!

Want more spells? Get your copy of my new Simple Spells for Daily Life ebook!

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Coloring your way to a balanced life

coloring way to balanced life

You may have noticed that I’m a bit obsessed with adult coloring books. Well, I’m going to tell you why. They are perhaps the best anti-stress tool I have ever encouneredt. Yes, I truly believe that.

Long before this latest trend happened, I bought myself a Hello Kitty kids coloring book and some good old crayola crayons. It was my junior or senior year in college and things were getting intense to say the least. In between studying and freaking out about all the work I had, I would color a little with my crayons and immediately feel better.

I’m sure you’ve read all about how . Well, it’s much more than that! Even Carl Jung, famed psychologist, had his clients coloring. And many psychologists still use coloring today to help their clients. It helps to relax the mind and calm the emotions, but is much more accessible. Nearly everyone remembers coloring as children, so it’s not as intimidating as meditation.

Aside from the calming and relaxation aspects of coloring, there’s a deeper urge that’s fulfilled with this hobby – creative expression.

Throughout time and all over the world humans have been creating lasting imprints of their lives. From cave paintings to Roman frescoes, and modern chalk art (one of my favs), we humans can’t stop ourselves from creating. We see a flat surface and think – “Hey! That needs some color!!”

Unfortunately, as adults in a very busy world, we’re often taught to leave behind our creative urges and focus on the “real world” of work and accomplishment. But art, music and architecture are just as integral to our humanity as finance, science and medicine.

Mr. Keating put it best in the timeless Dead Poet’s Society:

Perhaps I give too much credit to mere coloring books. I mean, I’m not creating a whole new Mona Lisa here. But whether your creation is one of a kind and amazes the world, or it’s just for fun in the evenings and weekends to get your mind off of work drama, it still affects you the same. It taps into a part of your brain that’s mostly off during the problem solving work of the day. Or at the very least it keeps you very much in the present, just like mediation – but without the stress of trying to keep thoughts away. They naturally don’t bother you as much.

You really can’t think about what to do about that annoying work project that’s not going well when you’re trying to decide what color the next flower should be.

Creativity is a unique and individual outpouring of the heart. It clears the mind and eases the soul. Crafting, creating, coloring – they all achieve the same end. To make us happier, healthier humans. And that’s something I can definitely get behind.

And because I love spreading the joy here are a few of the books I’m playing with right now!

Here’s my first finished page from Llewellyn’s Witch’s Coloring Book20160223_210555

And here’s a fun one from the Notes from the Universe Coloring Book:20160219_153320

 

And here’s my first ever coloring page from Balance book:20150803_112043

 

Finally here’s Leo telling me that I’ve had enough fun and it’s time to play with him. 🙂

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So now it’s your turn… What’s your creative passion? Tell – or better yet – show us below!

Leaning into fear to build the life you want

Last week I traveled to a new-to-me place.. Orlando, Florida. I was there because of the Life Editors Academy – my yearlong mastermind group. It was our first ever retreat! At last I was able to meet live, in person with all the lovely ladies I’d been working with through Facebook and group calls. It was three days of jam-packed dreaming, planning and laughing!

I’d never been to Florida before and although I didn’t get to go to Disney World this time around, I did go shopping at Disney Springs center. Like most of my generation, I grew up with Disney films. (The Little Mermaid was the Frozen of my day.)

20160121_112317It was a great treat to go to the place where much of my familiar childhood films live in reality. Not to mention the plethora of cute little toys, clothes and handbags… I already started on my Christmas list! 😉 However, this trip was more than just a welcome break from the Colorado winter. Like I said, it was a lot of planning for this year.

You know… the year for me to TRANSCEND and become more than I’ve ever been before.

I have to admit, when you’re conspiring with 8 other amazing women, all with their own stories and big visions, it generates a lot of energy. I feel so jazzed up right now I’m about ready to take off! Although I’m very glad I’m done flying for a while. I forgot it actually takes a lot out of you to just sit on an airplane for a few hours.

But back to the retreat… It was just the thing I needed to get myself together and focusing on my big goals this year. There will be some amazing new stuff that I’ll be rolling out to you all within the next month. So keep an eye out! But for now I’ll just recap my time in ‘gator country and leave it at that for now.

pool at retreat houseSome of the highlights of the trip were watching Inside Out – a very cool movie! And finally watching The Secret. I’m not sure how I never saw that before! Also a very moving and life changing film, and with nearly as much crazy animation. 🙂 Beyond the downtime with some movies and chilly dips into the pool, we also made some crafts! We made vision boards (mine is still in progress…) and painted gratitude rocks.

My all time favorite part though was the great company and life altering meals we shared.

We had our very own personaLEA sistersl chef/yoga instructor and I’m not convinced that she was an angel sent down from heaven to us! I can’t remember the last time I ate so well. I miss you already Heather! <3

I wasn’t the only one wishing heather would come back and be their live-in chef. All my academy sisters felt the same. And that’s not the only thing we shared. Coming from diverse locations like Nova Scotia and Tennessee, we all clicked together wonderfully!

Realizing that our surface differences were just that, we shared our similar visions and deepest fears. Though our backgrounds, experience and dreams may be different, our determination to reach them all shines through the same.

And I know that the journey to our goals will be much easier because of the support of these beautiful, soulful businesswomen.

All in all, it was a blast of a trip! Too short by far but also just enough to light the fire under me that I’ve been needing. So to end my homage to the Life Editors Academy, here’s a little video to show off my time there. (More pictures and videos of the retreat to come soon!)

 

How tarot transforms old enemies into new friends

tarot cardsSince high school and more so in college, I’ve known what a party pleaser it is to have my tarot cards with me and that many people love to have their cards read, whether they “believe” in them or not. When I went to Russia, during my junior year of college, I made the mistake of leaving my cards at home in Denver. I was luckily able to find another deck in St. Petersburg, and although I couldn’t really read the booklet at the time they were a beautiful deck nonetheless.

When I moved to Ukraine after college I was smart enough to bring one of my decks with me. And I also picked up a another more complex deck during my time in London, which is the one I still read with today. I read the cards a little bit in England, but when the cat got out of the bag in Ukraine that I read tarot, that was pretty much my extracurricular activity for a while.

The twist?… I had to do the readings mostly in Russian.  **Please note: I lived in eastern Ukraine where they speak both Ukrainian and Russian, so I was able (mostly) to communicate with the locals.** The most frequent requests for readings came from Kostya, the night security guard (whose day job was a history teacher at a local secondary school) and Sergei Ivanovich, the financial director of the school I taught at.

Sergei Ivanovich and me in Crimea
Sergei Ivanovich and me in Crimea

Although Kostya knew English well enough to have some normal, basic conversations, the vocabulary for tarot was a little more complex than he could handle. Therefore I had to resort to some Russian to try and explain concepts. Kostya and I got by with our special form of Russlish, but with Sergei Ivanovich, who learned his limited vocabulary from the film Madagascar (he really liked to “move it, move it!”), I had to attempt to explain it all in Russian.

As exciting as that sounds it’s actually could get rather difficult. Case in point – one day I was telling Kostya that he fears feeling oppressed but I didn’t know the word oppressed in Russian then (it’s угнетать, in case you were wondering the same thing). 🙂  In order to explain the feeling, using various other words and phrases I could muster, I said something to the effect of “like how the Soviet Union oppressed its people”. Kostya stared at me and asked “Why the Soviet Union?!” I told him that’s what we learned in school in the United States of course. He laughed and said, “We learned that the United States oppressed its people!”

So there you have it… all the world really needs in order to understand each other and dispel misinformation is a little intercultural communication via the Cards. Or at the very least it makes for a great story to tell later on. 🙂

Are you ready to learn more about tarot and start reading for your friends and family? Then check out my new course Intro to Tarot… The Journey Begins

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How The 5 People You Meet in Heaven will change your life

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“That there are no random acts. That we are all connected. That you can no more separate one life from another than you can separate a breeze from the wind.” – Mitch Albom, The 5 People You Meet in Heaven

There are those books you read that seem to stay with you forever. They sit permanently in the back of your mind, forgotten until some small thing, a word, a song, even a smell, recalls them to your thoughts. One such book for me is The 5 People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom. I remember the hype around this book and his other most famous novel, Tuesdays with Morrie. It seemed every one and their mother had read them and were praising Mitch to the sky and back.

I’m not usually a joiner at the time a trend happens, so I didn’t read either until much later. (In fact, I still haven’t read Tuesdays with Morrie, yet.) The reason the love 5 People is because it beautifully hits the range of all the feelings that death and transformation bring. The disbelief, anger and resentment, even the wonder of it all.

It reminded me that every interaction in this world is a miracle.5 people you meet in heave

Now if you haven’t read it yet, then I hope I’m not giving anything away by saying it’s about a man who dies and goes to Heaven. There he meets 5 people. With me so far? 😉 I won’t tell you much more than that because it is something that has to be experienced firsthand. The way that Mitch introduces each newcomer to the story is clever and sublime. Some of them are easy guesses, most though are not so much. But each person the main character meets has an important lesson to impart in order to help the him continue on his journey.

After I read it the first time, I did have to wonder who I would meet in heaven or in the next life. There are some people I’d dearly love to talk to and some I want to finally get some answers from. When my mother passed away several years ago, I desperately wanted to ask her all the unanswered questions in my life. Why had she made the choices she did? Why couldn’t she have been the mother I wanted or needed? I wanted finally to let her have and scream at her that her selfish, weak choices (in my eyes) ruined so much of my life. I wanted to finally drop the pretense and get really real and frankly really mean.

Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from the inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade, And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.

St. John's Hospice I remember clearly the last day I saw her. I cam to visit her in the hospice where she had been taken a few days before. She was sleeping and I didn’t want to disturb her rest. So I went out to the little garden area in the back of the hospice and sat on a bench for a while. There I envisioned all the things I had wanted to say for years. Venting all my anger, frustration and confusion at an entity that was hovering between life and death. I didn’t get the actual, factual answers I craved but I finally found a sense of peace for having spoken my feelings.

Though we want to learn why some things happened as they did, the bigger lesson to be taken from this book is that that we’re truly all connected.

Lives are changed through missing friends, loved ones and even strangers, who are but “family we have yet to come to know”. All lives intersect in a painfully beautiful and unimaginably intricate web of life and energy. What we choose to do with our time in this web is what makes it a glorious adventure.

You don’t have to believe in the traditional heaven to get something profound out of this book. Whatever your beliefs are about the afterlife, one thing I think most people can agree on is that there is much more than we could possibly imagine. I believe Mitch Albom did a fantastic job of imagining his version of heaven. And the final, perhaps best, lesson to take away from this small but mighty novel is that “’Life has to end, she said. ‘Love doesn’t.’”

What 5 people would you like to meet in heaven?

Gratitude is not just an Annual Affair

gratitude is not just annualTomorrow marks the annual day of giving thanks in the US. Families will be gathering and eating a variety of foods all day long, while watching a variety of football games, parades and other holiday films. (Can we say Hallmark made-for-tv movies?) At some point during the festivities, there may be a round of “what are you thankful for this year?” And then everyone will go back to stuffing their faces with more cranberry sauce or pumpkin pie. But what if you try something a little different this year?

What if you try to make the gratitude last for more than a half a second between helpings of mashed potatoes? What do you think would happen if you brought gratitude to your life every day for the next year? Something truly astonishing!

There’s more to being grateful than the spiritual or philosophical side of seeing the glass half full. It literally rewires your brain when take even a few minutes to list out things you are grateful for. Yes, I know. Gratitude is now a buzz word for all the hippy-dippy folk who want to find easy ways to alter their realities. However, sometimes a cliché is a cliché for a reason. And this is one of those times. Gratitude really can change your reality, whether or not you believe in the law of attraction.

Gratitude journalThrough all the struggles and terrible times I’ve faced, I’ve still maintained my gratitude for the things I did have. Being grateful for the roof over my head, even if that roof was in danger of being taken away. Being grateful for the support around me in tough times, even if I didn’t always reach out and ask for it. Knowing it was there when I did need it was just enough to keep me going. And of course I’m extremely grateful for all the experiences I’ve had traveling abroad. Even when I was stuck in Ukraine because I couldn’t afford, on my standard Ukrainian salary, to buy a ticket out of the country again.

The point is to appreciate all the ups and downs, because that is how you know you’re really in the game of life. If you were just going along not feeling anything at all, then what’s the use in even getting out of bed? Love the hard times as much as the good, because that is where you grow into who you are now.

So grab a notebook, piece of paper or even your smart phone and start writing down at least three things you are grateful for. Try that for a week and see how you feel at the end of it. If you’re having a hard time coming up with ideas, check out this awesome guided Gratitude Journal by Soulful Journals. (The have a wonderful line of guided journals for those new to the craft.)

And in the meantime, tell me one thing you’re grateful for on this holiday weekend?

 

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

Creating Serenity from the ground up!

Empowerment Guide with tarotHi all! I’m so excited to have had my first real interview with Sheila Morgan of Homegrown Serenity! Despite the wee technical glitches, we had a great time chatting (on both occasions!) and I can’t wait to see how my dear friend’s project develops.

If you haven’t seen it yet, click here to watch the interview in full.

But first, I want to give a big shout out to all of you who are new to me!

Welcome!! I’m Dacia Dyer – a tarot reader and intuitive life coach.Tarot reading

Are you tired of feeling like you are being pulled along by life without any real input of your own? Are you no longer sure if the path you’re on is the right one for you? Are you yearning to feel the passion and hunger for life again?

It’s time to start co-creating your life again. Time to stop letting events happen at you or around you. You have more power and control than you realize. Would you like to find your passion again? I can help.

I call myself an Empowerment Guide because I guide women to find their inner wisdom and power, allowing them to reconnect to their soul’s purpose and live their passionate life.

Want to know more about me and my coaching? Check out my most popular posts below. And don’t forget to get your free copy of my Daily Empowerment Ritual here.

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And if you don’t know Sheila Morgan yet, then hop on over to her site here and check out her inspiring project of finding serenity by interviewing 100 people!

I can’t tell you how honored I am to be the first one to talk with this amazing woman. Watch this space for more deep diving interviews into “how people find Serenity in their everyday lives and how they apply it.”

Thanks again to Sheila for her time and patience learning how to do all the video work!